THE FOUR SIGNS THAT IT’S TIME TO LEAVE THE RELATIONSHIP

1.     YOU MUST ACCOUNT FOR YOURSELF CONSTANTLY.  

Where were you for the ten minutes you were late?  It never takes you more than twenty-six minutes to get home.  Today it took thirty-eight minutes.  Were you having sex with someone at work before you came home?  I was watching the news and didn’t see anything about a car crash, you must have been having sex with the entire office before you came home.

2.     YOU FEEL LIKE A PRISONER IN YOUR OWN HOME.  

Why do you want to go out without me?  Do you not love me?  You say you’re going jogging, with whom?  What do they look like?  Do you want to have sex with them?  You’re always looking at other people.  I know you’re messing around on me.  If you really loved me you wouldn’t leave me home when you go out.  You only go jogging (not for health) because you know I don’t like it.  

3.     YOUR MATE HATES YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY.   

I don’t like going out with them.  You know your friend cheats, right?  Is that what you want to do?  Do you want to cheat on me?  Is that why you want to hang out over there?  Your family is such a bad influence on you.  They tell you all the time to leave me, I know they do.  They don’t even know me.  They don’t know half the crap I put up with from you.  They just judge me on what you tell them.  I don’t know how you even talk to them.  If you really loved me you wouldn’t bother with them at all with all the bad things they say about me.

4.     YOU FIGHT CONSTANTLY AND WHEN YOU POINT IT OUT THEY JUSTIFY IT BY SAYING THINGS LIKE “ALL RELATIONSHIPS HAVE ROUGH SPOTS AND REQUIRE WORK.”  

You come home and are immediately on the defensive for things that have happened in the past.  You must watch your every word lest something remind your significant other of some past misdeed (whether real or imagined).  You are constantly on egg shells and uncomfortable to the point that you have developed constant head or stomach aches (if it hasn’t happened yet, it will).

There are many more signs.  Some extreme, like your mate being physical with you.  And know that that isn’t just for men hitting women, but if your woman is hitting you- it’s the same thing.  Body inspections.  Demanding to see your phone and have all your passwords, especially if they are unwilling to do the same.  But the ultimate sign that it’s time to leave is this: You dread going home every day.  This is coupled with the feeling that every time your partner comes into the room you prepare for battle.  While all relationships do require work and compromise and will sometimes hit rough patches, if your relationships consists of nothing but massive pot holes with occasional smoothness (which only occurs when you’re able to refrain from pissing your partner off and can manage walking on the egg shells just right while you’re together) it’s time to get out.