3 Things You Can Do to Change Your Life Right Now

People say that change comes slow, if at all.  But, that’s nonsense.  

You can change your life immediately.  

All that is required is the desire to change and the willingness to do the work required for that change.  There are three steps you can take that will have immediate positive effects on your life.

1.)    BE ACCOUNTABLE FOR YOUR LIFE.  

What does that mean?  Well, it means you must, right this very moment, stop blaming people or circumstances for your poor decisions or lack of output.  It means that you accept that the reason you are where you are is because of the things you have done or haven’t done.  It isn’t because of whatever victim status you have given yourself (I’m the wrong gender/color/income bracket/I was loved too much or not enough/I was abused, abandoned, neglected etc…).  None of that shit matters.  While it may be a factor in your mental health, and fuel your feelings of inadequacy it is not the reason you are where you are.  Not that these things aren’t real and didn’t happen, but that at some point you must move on from them or they will own you for your entire life.  You are now a full grown adult capable of making your own decisions.  It also means that only you can get yourself on the right track, no one can do it for you.  If you continually tell yourself that you can’t be better until your significant other does XYZ or your parent steps up to do XYZ.  Or so and so must give you a head start, or say they’re sorry, or comfort you in some way you will never get anywhere.  

BE ACCOUNTABLE AND CUT THE BULLSHIT.

2.)   WEED OUT NEGATIVITY.  

This is tough.  People places and things that mess up your life.  For me, that meant family.  I come from a long line of people that have never accomplished anything, yet seem to be absolute authorities on everything.  They were forever telling me things “for my own good.”  You’ll never amount to anything.  You’ll never do that.  What makes you think you’re good enough to be successful at that?  These negative people have to go, and they’re not the only ones.  How about the friend who is a constant rain cloud in your life?  You know them.  I call them spiritual vampires.  Feel free to borrow the term.  I got it from my friend Grace.  The spiritual vampires are the people who can find the bad in ANY given situation.  They are the cloud to any silver lining.  Nothing ever goes right for them because they’re negativity becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.  Places are negative as well.  The corner bar.  Your lonely bedroom.  Watching a news channel 24/7.  Talk about negativity.  Trust me, the news will happen whether you watch it or not.  If you choose to watch it (regardless of your political affiliation) you will come away depressed and believing the world is coming to an end.  It’s like a cliff hanger movie.  “The world is going to end, film at 11:00.”  They tell you how horrible everything is and if you tune in tomorrow, they’ll tell you how it’s going to happen.

3.)   BE OF SERVICE.  

There is nothing better you can do than to help those less fortunate than yourself.  And, if you weed out that negative BS, you’ll find that plenty of people are.  No matter your circumstances there is always someone worse off than you.  You can volunteer at soup kitchens, homeless shelters, VA hospitals, regular hospitals, geriatric homes.  There’s no end to the positive you can do for those in need of attention.  We’ll get into the karma (if you believe in such stuff-and I do) of such acts in another blog.